Mengubati Hati Yang Terluka

Pelbagai perkara berlaku dalam kehidupan seharian kita. Ada ketikanya, hati kita terluka kerana disakiti oleh orang lain atau suasana.

Beberapa cara boleh kita amalkan untuk mengubati hati yang terluka. Keberkesanannya bergantung kepada diri anda, namun berikut adalah cara yang sering dikongsia oleh pakar.


1. Latih Minda Melupakan Kenangan Pahit
Bunyinya senang nak dibuat, tapi perlu diaplikasi berterusan. Mengaku saja anda sering merasa sedih sebab banyak kali mengingat kenangan pahit atau selalu kembali ke memori silam yang lalu, betul tak? Kita kena cut connection feeling kita dengan emosi yang lalu.

Mulai hari ini, tekad untuk melupakan semua itu, selupa yang mungkin, kasi kosong abis! Bulatkan azam untuk fokus kepada masa depan anda, cita-cita, keluarga, kerjaya, kewangan, keilmuan dan rakan-rakan. Anda takkan dapat melupakan kesemua memori pahit sekaligus, tapi lakukan step by step dengan mengalihkan perhatian anda kepada perkara lain. Proses ini mengambil masa, tapi ia boleh dipercepatkan dengan disiplin diri.


2. Buang Sikap Risau
Ada dua kesan dari sikap risau ni, pertama ia menarik nasib tak baik, masalah dan musibah - tanpa anda pinta.

Kedua, memberi kesan buruk pada kesihatan anda dari segi fizikal dan mental.

Risau membuat anda selalu menjadi sedih dan kecewa. Untuk buang sikap risau, belajar untuk bertenang dan latih diri anda mengawal emosi.


3. Belajar Rajin Bersyukur
Ucap syukur atas kesemua yang anda ada, apa saja! Misalnya, ucap syukur kerana Anda masih ada 5 deria yang lengkap; anda boleh melihat dan menarik nafas tiap kali bangun tidur, anda ada kawan rapat yang memahami anda dan anda mempunya handphone kesayangan anda. Ucap syukur seikhlas hati, sebanyak yang mungkin, seikhlas mungkin hingga rasa syukur tu meresap jauh ke dalam diri. Buat banyak kali dalam sehari.


4. Belajar Menjadi Pemaaf
Sikap pemaaf dapat membersihkan hati dari perasaan negatif dan emosi-emosi negatif. Seterusnya, meneutralkan gelombang fikiran negatif yang melekat bersarang di minda. Ketahuilah, anda selalu rasa sedih dan kecewa kerana anda tidak memaafkan kesalahan diri anda di masa lalu ataupun anda tidak memaafkan kesalahan orang lain tehadap diri anda satu ketika dulu. Belajar menjadi pemaaf dan menghapus semua ini lalu menarik ketenangan datang pada diri anda.


5. Ketawa, ketawa dan terus ketawa
Ketawa bukan dibuat-buat, tapi biar ketawa yang benar-benar menggembirakan anda serta menjadikan anda girang. Tonton video yang lucu, baca cerita yang lucu, dekatkan diri anda dengan rakan-rakan yang lucu serta cari "funny side" dalam setiap situasi; agar anda boleh ketawa secara automatik. Ketawa dapat menghilangkan sedih. Buat apa layan kecewa sedangkan anda boleh ketawa? Come on...


6. Ubah Fikiran
Kita tak boleh merubah situasi yang boleh membuat kita kecewa, sedih dan murung. Tapi, kita boleh merubah fikiran kita dan apa yang kita fikirkan tentang situasi-situasi tersebut walau seburuk manapun ia. Rahsianya, cari sinar mentari disebalik mendungnya awan.

Walaupun perkara tidak berpihak kepada anda, cari cara bagaimana anda boleh jumpa nilai-nilai positif di dalamnya.

Fikir yang baik-baik saja, kerana ia memberi keuntungan jangka masa panjang.
Rezeki anda murah dan segala yang baik-baik datang sendiri pada anda. Anda menjadi apa yang anda selalu fikirkan. Buat apa fikir yang buruk sedangkan anda boleh tarik semua yang baik-baik?
Fikir yang buruk, Anda dapat yang buruk jawapnya. Ini hukum alam dinamakan hukum sebab dan akibat.


7. Hati Mesti 'Keras'
Bukan keras sembarangan, maksudnya kekerasan hati, kesabaran yang tinggi, pandai mengawal emosi dan menerima hakikat dengan hati terbuka. Allah menurunkan musibah, permasalahan dan macam-macam lagi bukan sekadar dugaan, tapi balasan pada perbuatan-perbuatan anda di masa lalu. Buat baik, dibalas baik, begitu juga sebaliknya.

Cuba ingat balik kejahatan kecil yang anda lakukan pada orang lain, mungkin ada walau anda tak sedar. Itulah perlunya kita bersikap baik dan berfikir yang baik-baik pada semua orang, benda, perkara, situasi dan keadaan. Sebelum masuk tidur, set minda untuk jadi ceria pada keesokan harinya.
Lafazkan dengan nada berbisik. Relaks, jangan terlalu mendesak diri.

Selepas bangun tidur, katakan pada diri ini adalah hari yang baru untuk Anda.
Tekadkan diri untuk menjadikan hari yang baru tu hari yang baik, sungguh baik, sebaik yang mungkin dari hari yang sebelumnya.



- Artikel iluvislam.com

"THROUGH A RAPIST'S EYES" (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. it may save a life.)

It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many
people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a
situation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world.

THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG...

FYI - Through a rapist's eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in
prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim
and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.

They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid

or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to

go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common

targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women

who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors

around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through

their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are

off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is

grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman

and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to

worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged

because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going

after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or

other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their

hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to

the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince

these guys you're not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or
with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask
them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:
can't believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now
that you've seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up,
you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of
you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to
said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY
target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of
it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER
SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can
do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from
behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this
guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was
trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin
and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching
yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it
is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and
make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing
down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked
audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of
your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any
odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel
little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really
was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ....

I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be
some, where you will go "hmm I must remember that" After reading,
forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in
this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your
body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks

for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from

you.... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or

purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN

THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back

tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like

crazy. The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has
saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating,
working, etc., and just sit
(doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS! The
predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for
him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell
you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or

parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be

hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the

passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE

RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the

passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling

them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their

cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and

the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest

your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a

guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE

THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are
horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS
RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times;
And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may
get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a
good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies
of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often
asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when
he abducted his next victim.

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a
life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going
to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers,
wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as
well.

Tell this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the

world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it's better safe than

sorry.

copied from facebook..

berusahalah!!

assalamualaikum...


i wish that everyday i just sit around and do nothing that burdening my brain.. haha.. sounds so lazy.. yeah.. i always wonder how is everyone so passionate about their job? is it because they got their dream job or is it just me that hate my job.. i know i shouldn't be so pessimist about it, perhaps i just should give colors to my job and run it happily like everyone else..

after all there is only 1 step left for me to end this misery.. yet it is the hardest part.. ayayayaii!


ganbatte!!!! chaiyokk!!! berusahalah!!!


for those who has the same issue like me, please read this:

Believe with all of your heart that you will do what you were made to do.
Orison Swett Marden

Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

wasalam.. =)

tips kurangkan/elak jerawat..

assalamualaikum..


maybe i am not the right person to give this tips about how to get rid of acne but i found it kinda informative and interesting.. well, my skin is not flawless too, there are acne here and there and now i have to deal with my shingles scars..(right on my face friends!) but i'm okay.. i can deal with it and i hope Allah will always help me to get trough this hard time.. well proudly to say that i survived so far.. alhamdulillah.. finally i got my strength to face people.. well, cut the crap.. let's go back to main topic.. okay here they are...... 

Tips Mengurangkan Atau Mengelak Jerawat

Keyakinan diri merupakan sesuatu yang kita perlu ada dalam mengharungi kehidupan sebagai seorang muslim. Ia penting dalam usaha kita menyampaikan sesuatu mesej atau berkomunikasi.
Kadangkala bagi mereka yang mempunyai masalah jerawat akan merasakan bahawa keyakinan mereka kurang.

Jerawat berlaku kerana pelbagai faktor. Antaranya perubahan hormon, keturunan (genetik), tekanan dan makanan.

Berikut adalah beberapa tips yang boleh diamalkan untuk mengurangkan atau mengelak jerawat :
1. Ambil wudu' sebelum tidur.
2. Pastikan diri berwudu' sepanjang masa.
3. Elakkan diri daripada tekanan.
4. Pastikan anda mempunyai rehat dan tidur yang cukup.
5. Elakkan daripada memicit jerawat dengan kuku kerana ia akan menyebabkan jerawat menjadi bengkak, merah dan berparut (radang).
6. Berdisiplin dalam menggunakan pencuci muka dan ubat.
7. Pastikan pencuci muka anda betul-betul sesuai dengan kulit muka.
8. Pastikan tangan anda sentiasa bersih kerana jika tangan kotor (mempunyai bakteria), maka ia akan memindahkan bakteria ke muka apabila anda menyentuh muka.
9. Pastikan kain pengelap muka anda sentiasa bersih dan lembut.
10. Lindungi kulit dari sinar matahari kerana ia akan meransang kulit mengeluarkan lebih banyak sebum sehingga menyebabkan pertumbuhan jerawat.
11. Kurangkan makanan yang pedas, berminyak dan berkalori.
12. Elakkan dari membuat atau memikirkan perkara-perkara yang boleh menaikkan ghairah nafsu.
13. Pastikan muka anda benar-benar bersih selepas memakai mekap.


of coz i copied from a website..   you can read more here..














psstt! indahnya ciptaan Allah yang the 1st pic tu kan.. =)

old bestfriend..

assalamualaikum..


have u been in this situation.. once u used to have a very best friend on earth.. u share everything with her, u do everything with her.. (mandi pun sama..haha).. but then when u guys get older, everything seems different.. u are no longer share the same interest or the same passion.. time after time u and her are getting away.. now u and her seem like totally strangers..okay, i admit this is about me.. T__T


but 1 day, she requested to be ur friend on facebook.. what would u do?


nahhh.. u maybe do not have any problem to approve right.. but i'm not that kind of person who likes to approve easily.. i don't know, even he/she might be someone that i know, i still feel that i don't want to approve the request.. BAD BAD BAD person.. it's not that i'm a swanky or cocky person, it's just that i don't know.. sigh......


and now i am still thinking about the friend request.. should i or should not i approve it.. ayayaya.. think again, it's not a big matter but.. sigh.. again...

i should approve her perhaps.. she left me a message after all..  BAD BAD BAD me..... pffftt!

maxi skirt anyone?

assalamualaikum..

enuff with the sorrow.. now i begin to get back on track y'all.. feel great to have that kind of experience..  ok, enuff is enuff..


well i know you guys know maxi skirt/dress more than i do.. and i search for this so-called modest attire for muslimah like forever.. err, of course it takes like for eternity for me since i kinda a cheapskate person..senang cakap kedekut.. ahahahahh! well i laugh at myself..booo..! T_T

i did look for it everywhere but none meet my expectation.and again it's due to my lame expectation (frankly).. i expect it to be gorgeous yet sold at reasonable price..(err, i must say CHEAP).. well walaupun kedekut, i managed to buy several maxi skirts. i think i bought 3 pcs, and not really wear them. 1- too tight for me.. showing the shape of my butt.. and hips.. and i look insanely hideous! too sexay i reckon.. (please faint!!!) =p .. end up sold it to my housemate at 1/2 price since it's still new and never worn.. 2- it was purple in colour and cotton.. hardly to match with tops and a bit sheer..must wear with petticoat.. but now, i just wear it at home.. 3-just bought a couple week ago.. worn once outside.. it's nice and comfy.. but it's blue black and i can hardly match with any available tops.. (is this means that i need several new tops??) LOL..


but what i want to post here is not me mumbling insanely.. its rather a bunch of maxi skirt pics that i got from "uncle GOOGLE".. nothing, just to share these pics with u guys.. hope u drooling with me.. =)

perhaps u found nothing is amazing here.. maybe i am outdated.. pfffttttttt....









wasalam.. =)

a new day has come!

tripping stones makes you go back to reality

assalamualaikum..


it's been a long time since my last mumbling.. pheww, lotsa things happening to me! i don't know sometimes i get REALLY down just to face this so-called test of life..until this moment i have mixed feeling of down+thankful to God.. yeah definitely it is a test of life.. and alhamdulillah somehow i could taste this bittersweet of test from GOD the Almighty..i should be thankful..

at the moment, i have the worst time of my life i guess.. i have no interest at all to finish my study (just to finish my thesis). during 1st day of hari raya, i got infected by shingles.. the worst disease i got so far.. or we rather call it kayap.. the worst is i got infected started from inside of my left ear and it went down towards my left chin, and it went INTO my mouth..  the pain? only GOD knows how it felt like.. i could not eat, could not talk, could not sleep, hard for me to perform my prayer.. during that miserable time i could not brush my teeth, shampoo my hair, and i almost felt like an uncivilized homo sapiens on earth..

after 2-3 weeks battled with the pain, now i'm battling with the emotional pain.. the shingles leave me huge hideous scar that i could not take it..  the scar started right from my left ear until my left chin.. pretty ladies, please imagine if you were infected by a skin disease and it leaves you hideous scar.. yes scar on your pretty face.. well i am no a pretty girl with pretty face.. but it really makes me down somehow.. at 1st i don't even have the gut to go outside and face the world (pretty exaggerating).. but from the beginning, i keep thinking of the reason why God test me with this.. you should bare in mind that all the test that God give to you are His way of showing that He loves you.. He wants you to get closer to him and always be thankful for what you have.. 

then i think about those acid splashed victims.. what if i were in their shoes? i have to live with the consequences for the rest of my life.. the scars will stick on me and definitely change my whole life.. but what i got now will fade away somehow even though will take a pretty loooong time.. i should be thankful.. always be thankful..

some might think that what i am facing right now is a small matter and nothing to be swizzled about.. but u know nothing until you are in my shoes.. then you will know that tripping stones makes you back to reality..